Last time I wrote somewhat facetiously about my New Year resolution to be conscientious in shredding all the old financial documents that had been accumulating in the “paperless society” which we had been promised.
Today,
I have a more serious resolution which will not be so easy to keep. It is
to live according to the rule to do unto others as I would have them do unto me
i.e. the Golden Rule as it is commonly called. In some ways this makes
perfect sense. After all, who doesn’t have a clear idea of how they want
to be treated by others? The ideas may differ from person to person, but
it seems to be a universal truth that all people know when they haven’t been
treated as they believe they deserve to be treated. So, it seems to make
perfect sense that we should treat others the same way. However, in
practice it certainly is not that easy.
Take
a simple example. You are walking along a city street and are approached
by someone who has a somewhat disreputable appearance. You know pretty
well what is going to happen next. They are going to ask you for some
spare change or enough money for something to eat. Your defenses
automatically go up and you wonder what you should do. Perhaps you should
ignore them and walk on by quickly. Or perhaps you wonder if this person
is really in need or is it a scam? Or perhaps you wonder if they will
just use the money for something less appropriate than food such as cheap wine
or other drugs. You ask yourself if they are deserving of your
help.
Lorna
and I were in a Tim Horton's in London last week in a part of the city that has
a strong representation of homeless people. While in line I was asked by
someone nearby for money to buy a muffin. I did give him a Toonie, but I
haven’t delved into the thought process in coming to that decision. That
is just a small example of what should be a relatively straightforward
case. I do not always respond that way to such requests for various
reasons as I noted above. If we want to make the Golden Rule our way of
life, it truly will complicate things.
C.S.
Lewis addressed the challenge of a Golden Rule New Year resolution:
I may repeat ‘Do as you would be done by’ till I am black in the face, but I cannot really carry it out till I love my neighbour as myself; and I cannot learn to love my neighbour as myself till I learn to love God: and I cannot learn to love God except by learning to obey him.
So,
I guess the best way is to start with the small things – small steps in keeping
my resolution at least some of the time. Something to consider on your
Journey through 2025.